According to Eharmony...
1) You’ve Got it Goin’ On
It takes two whole people
to make a whole relationship. This means you enjoy a full life with friends,
family, a career and social life that fulfill you. You’re confident, and you
don’t expect marriage to instantly fix your problems.
2) You Enjoy the Mundane Moments
Marriage is not one long
date. Being ready to get engaged means that you truly enjoy each other’s
company. You’re okay with just being together sometimes, even while running
errands or doing chores.
3) You’re Ready to Burn your
Little Black Book
Marriage means being
exclusive with one person for the rest of your life. In many cases, it also
means forsaking contact with exes and anyone else who may threaten your union.
If the idea of monogamy makes you feel secure and confident in your
relationship, then engagement will be a comfortable next step for you.
4) You Bring out the Best in
each Other
Cheesy, we know. But ask
yourself if this person makes you a better person. Are you kinder, more patient
and more pleasant to be around when your snookums is near?
5) You’re a Team Player
Compromise isn’t always
50/50. Sometimes it’s 100/0. If you want to vacation at Disney World but your
mate would rather go to the Bahamas, then a 50/50 compromise leaves you both
adrift in the Atlantic Ocean. You’re ready to get engaged if you can handle not
getting your way sometimes. It’s not about winners and losers. It’s not about
being a doormat. It’s about using “we” statements and serving someone besides
yourself.
6) You Cheerlead for Each Other
Before you swap rings you
should already be each other’s biggest fans. When your sweetie masters a level
of Guitar Hero, you’re there with a high five. When you complete that 5K run
for charity, your honey surprises you at the finish line with a gift
certificate for a massage.
7) You’re an Open Book
There are no off-limits
topics with your main squeeze. You can get real about your worries, dreams,
frustrations and mess-ups without fear of being judged. You can cry when you
feel like crying. In marriage, living as a 24/7 partnership, there’s no way you
can keep your guard up all the time. If you and your significant other enjoy a
“you can tell me anything” relationship, then that’s a great start.
8) You Fight Fair
Every couple has
conflicts. It’s how you handle them that makes the difference. If you can
disagree respectfully, then your relationship is headed in the right direction.
9) You have Similar Values
You both want kids. Or
you both don’t want kids. You’re both savers. Or you’re both spenders. You two
don’t have to share a brain – after all, part of the beauty of marriage is that
you’ll complement each other’s strengths and weaknesses – but it helps to be
headed in the same direction. If you already agree on the big stuff, then
smaller issues, like who does the laundry, will be easier to tackle.
10) Your Friends and Family
Accept your Choice
Your main squeeze shares
car care tips with your dad and sends birthday cards to your grandma. If the
people who know you best give your sweetheart two thumbs up, then that’s a
green flag to pop the question.
11) You’re Thinking Long Term
You start brown bagging
your lunch and put the savings into a “rainy day” bank account. When picking
out new furniture, you opt for the king-size bed so there’s room for two. You
make long-term plans together, like booking a ski trip for next Valentine’s
Day, because you assume you’ll still be a couple.
12) You’d Elope
Do you want a wedding or
do you want to be married? The event is fun, but it lasts only one day. Would
you still want to spend the rest of your life together even if there were no
dress, cake and Cha Cha Slide? If so, then your desire to get hitched is
probably coming from a pure place.